Nobody should feel ashamed of being bullied. It's not anyone's choice. The only people that should feel ashamed are the bullies themselves. You may be bullied for whatever reason, but you are not at fault! If you are going through this, I'll share some advice on what you can do. No one has the right to bother and hurt other people, that's why it has to be stopped.
If you are being attacked or made fun of for any reason, you are experiencing bullying. If its from one person or a group, it's the same thing. Sometimes people act like they're joking, but when it becomes repeated and intentionally directed towards you in negative way, that is still bullying. If someone is singling you out and making you feel uncomfortable, they are being a bully. There are ways though you can find the right help. If it's in your school, talk with a close teacher or guidance counselor. See what they can do to help the situation. If nothing gets resolved and the bullying continues, go have a talk with your principal. Maybe you can switch classes to avoid conflict or have the principal address the issue with your bully. You may feel scared or intimidated at first which is totally fine, but you don't deserve to have someone bring you down and harass you. That's why the best way is to directly go to someone in your school who can do something to resolve the issue. It's also a good idea to confide in who is closest to you, which may be your family or a friend. Let them know how you're feeling, what's going on in your life. If you don't speak up about these things no one will know how to help. Talking and expressing personal things are hard, I know, but it's for the better in some cases. If you are experiencing bullying at your workplace, I recommend doing a similar thing. Talk to your manager about your co worker and how you two don't work well together. Explain more in detail if you have to, doing this would be a professional way to handle things. Possibly get your shifts changed to different times to avoid the person all together. Sometimes you experience bullying from a family member as well, this is more personal because it's someone you would naturally be close with. Unfortunately families fight, especially parents and siblings. I've had many fights with my family, some a lot worse than others. Name calling and saying things you don't actually mean can hurt someone more than you realize. But there is a difference between fighting and repeated bullying from a family member. In this case, you should talk to someone else in your family or a trusted friend that will relate or listen. Even just opening up about something that bothers you can help. It's comforting to have someone there who understands you, so if you have a close relative, explain to them how you feel. If not, find a friend who you trust instead to talk with.
As I mentioned, there are levels to these things. If you know what you're going through is more serious and not sure where to go for help, I'll list some numbers to call I found online.
National Domestic Violence Hotline- 1-800-7233 Thehotline.org
Sexual Assualt Hotline- 800-656-4673 (this number directs you to a trained staff member in your area)
It's important to always tell the truth. Do not exaggerate a problem or story to benefit your side. Lying will never get you far, the truth always will. There are people who care about you even though it may not appear that way, and will take time to hear you out. Share your voice and someone will listen.
It's not your fault, always remember that. The years between childhood and growing into an adult are getting harder everyday in the instant society we live in. Social media is a quicker way to attack someone from behind closed doors. Being online has connected people but has also torn them apart. It can be really hard to escape it no matter who you are, if you ask me. But you can fight through it. One way is to block the people who spread hate to you on social media.
Life is like a book full of seasons and stories, when things are really bad you always have to push through it. Because you are in the middle of finishing up another chapter, and it won't be long until everything feels okay again. Growing up can suck but also is an amazing thing. You can be whoever you want and leave a positive mark on this earth. All the trials that went on in your past can only make you wiser for the future.
Speak up and be the voice for the ones who stay silent. If you have an opportunity to make a change, take it.